We have kids together and I felt he wasnt spending time on the phone with them. And nurture that thought that you deserve better? Because when he's thinking about you, he'll want to talk to you. But he sends mixed signals saying that he hates not talking to me all day. I know he has some struggles at this point. PLease let me know what i can do next? But remember guys dont understand a lot of things and some of the times actually are just trying to let you down easy when they say they need a break. we are cousins but we only see each other durin vacations or occasions because he stays in a different city with his family Its crazy Im a therapist I can help others but cant use it on my own self. After all we all have our past. and I know how hard it is to keep it together when you run into him accidentally. After a month of NC i eventually gave in and began to reply to his texts. In February I went to visit him because I wasnt sure what was going on. He neglected my needs, emotions since I was always open and honest how I feel towards him. It is to touch his sentimental side and memory. He broke up with me because I told him I had this dream where we were both in bed and once I turned around he was far from me. But the last week I have tried to go no contact but she breaks it with texts starting off about the child and then something else. Consider who he is as a person, who you are, and show him exactly what he's missing out on. But like you say I will move forward and let him be. Is there any hope for us in the future? Then I asked him if it was a possibility that he would ever get back with his babys mom and he said yes it is a possibility. Why? And then we broke up. I think that no matter the outcome, a real no contact (of at least 2 months) is the best idea for you. Instead, it would be way better to make him regret, make him chase after you. Never change. Hes got a job and is now working there, 20 days after his move We have a fight and he ends things with me completely. To all the people who shared their stories here have you moved on? Mainly I just dont want to feel like the last couple months have been a lie because thats what hurts the most. Note that my friend practically lives on the same street as my ex-boyfriend. I had made him these letters to open at certain times. We were good for about another two weeks until I tried to really convince him to leave his miserable marriage. And the other way too The more you beg and plead and seem desperate and depressed, the more hell be convinced he has done the right thing. But just pay attention to your words, because they are important: 1. I know just like I do, he has a lot on his plate and needs to think about things. The best way to make him regret leaving you is by acting like it was the best thing that could have ever happened to you. I think that if you were meant to be, you will find your way back to each other, but this time I wouldnt try to contact him through text or phone and try to move on with my life, as hard as it may seem to you. I know this isnt what I deserve but its hard to convince myself. He didnt want to be alone on Christmas and New Years. I was a total asshole to her after my dad died 5 years ago and didnt show her my love. and we werent in touch at all after that. And the reality is that as soon as you hit the first major obstacle in your relationship, he couldnt handle it. Since then we talked all the time. Then got back to me and suggested to meet. If I were you I would not pressure him to meet me and spend more time with me. Theyre not nice to be around. Which broke my heart even more than him wanting to be single. Does he want me back. Those people need therapy. When i asked him if he misses me he said he didnt want to answer which clearly showed that he did miss me. He was always talking to me about his preoccupation with the kids and his work but never mentioned her in front of me. thing is that he found this himself. We were both in marriages which we left to be together. My week vacation with him was great but I felt something was different. ). And from this moment on, when you run into your ex, you will only politely say hello, smile, and go about your business. The reason he ignores your texts and hardly noticed you anymore is that you are probably going about it all wrong. But I had a moment of weakness and this other guy was telling me all sorts of lies and I believed that other guy And ended up sleeping with him. If they want to prove to you, how sorry they are for spreading cruel lies, tell me theyre going you have to earn your trust first, because you dont appreciate being used like a doormat. You have to change your mind. My son needs his father and so do I.. I hadnt been in a good mood for a day or two and then I tried explaining to him what was wrong but, he always would say that things were my fault and that I was in the wrong. Talk soon.. I dont care about the money. Either way, youll benefit from it He may realize that he wants to be with you, really, or youll see that he doesnt Which can set you free from him. Thats what I would do anyway, just my advice. I dont know if Im just being selfish or what but I cant stop thinking about the fact he was planning a proposal and hes always finding excuses to talk/see me. After a while him rejecting me sexually I went with another guy. I . i would do anything to get him back. Please help. He hasnt asked me how I am doing and I just think he is done.. So, if you want to make a guy regret the day he let you walk out the door, find someone better and rub it in his face. . Many thanks in advance! I know. I hope this helps and hang in there Everything happens at the right time and for the best reasons. Ive decided not to respond because of no contact but feel terrible not saying anything because I know he is just emotional. Heres how to do it (and why) I hope it helps: I am in a LDR and he ended it. It was to the point where he actually just dropped everything, drove to my house, and demanded to talk to me. You seem to have your head in the right place, thats great. This is his first child and he loves him very much. But what i did last time, calling him and crying a little bit reminding our good memories to him and how much I loved him..but i didnt beg for his coming back. But I need him to run after me and prove to me that hes fully committed. . The vast majority of abortions occur during the first trimester of a pregnancy. He and I both made mistakes and I realise which ones were mine and all I want is to make everything better so that we can have a stronger relationship (if that ever happens). I had a friend with benefits & hes going to the same college as me (both incoming freshmen). Congratulations. This is complicated a bit by the fact that we work together. The thing is he is texting me everyday. I miss him like crazy and want him back but I also had the chance of seeing them 2 together and to me she didnt look too happy but maybe it was just in my head. Keeps telling me to stop calling/texting. Make Him Regret Losing You #2 - He Needs to Compare You With Other Women. Remember, you cant just randomly text him and expect results. He said he dont want me anymore that he dont know if he gonna miss me. At this point I feel like he hates me may not even love me. Heres the one that can help you: I offered him a break, time, etc but he only got mad. Please tell me what to do? She says that I have changed and she doesnt have my feelings for me. I dont know what to do because his signals are so confusing. The next day he unfriend me on facebook. 11. Hide it in the freezer. Ive become more bitter than I was since the breakup. He said I deserved better. the next minute we would be laughing and joking as if nothing was wrong! I think that from what youre describing, he has given you a lot of excuses about not committing to a relationship with you, none of them are true. I started going out with a couple other guys to try to get over him and one of them tried to take advantage of me and that made me miss my ex even more. He wont talk or see me. Dribble light wax on it. He told me Im the best girlfriend he ever had but something is wrong because he is not happy. Starts off sweet, and once a commitment is made they flip. Its exactly the 2 months that after them hell be back living next to you. Heres my post about how to do the no contact thing the right way, I hope it helps, and good luck to you!:). Yet, thankfully, I have been strong enough not to. I know that youre heart is broken and right now and its easy to decide that there is no true love out there and that everything is hopeless, but these are just thoughts, and they have nothing to do with reality. I guess I just want to make him regret it and perhaps come back one day, even if its too late for him. our relationship had its challenges, as most do, but he was so set on us getting through everything together. We were arguing too much and didnt speak for like our last 2 nights together. Please any advice will help! Starting this past month, we have to deal with long distance for a year due to college and military. Will he miss us and wanna come home? Write your and your boyfriend's name on the paper. i did a mistake by begging him for a week after that, but i stopped doing it and started the no contact rule after that. I dont think the last couple of months were a lie. Its been two months no progress if anything I feel its worse and I filed for child support which hes upset about. I actually pity him. I believe that other people can sense how much we love and appreciate ourselves and give us the same amount of love back. Finally at the end of the day I just wanted to be polite and told him that I got his messages, Im fine thank you. I was good to him, his best friend, always there for him and supporting him in any way I could and he more or less used me and walked away like no big deal. If he already feels like crap for hurting you, you get the reward without any work. How to Make Him Regret Leaving You Step #1 - Make Him See What He Lost Step #2 - Send Texts He Won't Ignore Step #3 - Let Him Go (to Get Him Back) The Real Reason He Left You No, he didn't leave you because you left dirty laundry around. You can write him back, telling him again that you prefer not to be in contact at this point. But i told him that i dont date because of the mess that is created and i dont want to face breakups. If you want to ex to regret leaving, this is one thing you should do. The moment you cut off communication, it will feel as if you have cut off his leg. As you saw for yourself, the no contact works with him, because thats when he understands that he doesnt want to lose you. It just hurts like heck! I developed feelings for him & he didnt. At the time he had suffered with depression. That he couldnt possibly imagine it. i really need your advice Am I wasting my time ? I was trying to move on. Focus on yourself. I am really confused I know he enjoys my company and loves the sex. You need to have a plan of attack. Hello there. Im trying so hard to not text him or contact him anymore but I really want him back. It will just strengthen his decision. I think that he is afraid of something. I would try, in your case, the 60-day no contact rule. And I dont know if Ill ever be there. I told him, Well, Im not in love with you and weve only been together for two months so theres no rush. Then he told me that hes scared that hell hurt me more and that, if I stay with him Ill be as cynical as he is and that he never wants me to change who I am because Im amazing. I would keep going with the no contact rule. I feel like I need someone who I can talk to who can convince me to finally let go of my bf because my heart is so painful now. His emotion fluctuated a lot, he wanted to obey him no matter what he did to me. Im worried he wont get back together with me either. After every one he would want to take a break and I couldnt keep him in a relationship he didnt want to be in. it was exhausting and it did make me doubt, but his constant reassurance and declaration of love for me made me restore so much faith in us. (2 weeks before this he had made out with me as well as he would hug me every day, lay next to me when watching movies, and be around me whenever we were in the same room.) But 6 months into relationship he gave up tablets and gone back to being him with up and downs. I tried to talk to him many times but his friends or cousin will always be around. But separate is not that separate for us. Heres my post about it and I hope it helps: https://howtogetaguytowantyou.com/60-day-no-contact-rule/, Hi there. Hang in there, you are much stronger that you think. By giving him the chance to do as he pleases with his life, you'll essentially allow him to process the initial stages of a breakup and encourage him to reach out to you and talk to you on equal terms again. We flirted for a couple days. he agreed to meet with me sunday to talk; which gave me hope. I do just want to be friends right now! Thats where we did all our talking because he was so far away and I dont have a phone right now. I hope this helps and remember Everything happens for a reason. When I asked if he changed his mind he ignored me. Later on the situation got worse, he swore and got mad at me each and every day. On Oct 19 he broke up with me. Will it take another cheating girlfriend to realize what he had with me? However, you should be careful not to bombard him with those old good memories. Do not falter while speaking, make sure you have your answers ready for all those questions. But, long distance relationships are extremely difficult to keep, and they make a small argument seem like the entire relationship is hopless. Im no expert, its just what I would do. I cant forgive myself. As soon as they broke up, he started talking to me again. My ex and I just broke up a week ago. I asked him to talk to me so I could have closure after two weeks and he told me that he didnt want me to think he was leading me on. I was trying to give him space. And the worst way to change it is to demand for something that isnt there at the moment, even if you know that he is scared. The reason for the separation was that his parents would never accept me as his wife. Doing it the wrong way may sabotage your chance of ever getting your ex back. Hi so my ex girlfriend ended it with me a month ago. hey, I love him a lot, I stayed by his side during a rough patch and he was by mine as well During his down time, I paid for a lot of stuff and loaned him A LOT of money Now Im torn, Im losing my job. He says its possible he may be excited about us dating in the future but that it doesnt feel imminent or impending or anything.. The best thing you can do for him is ignore him completely if you really want him to regret leaving you. And I was happy because he was showing me the neighborhood I was going to live with him. Even though I know I cant. I took a good man for granted and I am so mad at myself.. We grew close, almost inseparable as we had almost every class together in school and hung out during all breaks. And thanks for replying me. Your Boyfriend's Shortcomings That Lead To His Apology. If you didnt, Im sure it would have been much easier for you. I want him back but dunno if thats even possible. But, it has to be done without waiting and expecting a certain result. Double Down On The Best Parts Of Your Relationship. Im seriously depressed. It hurts cause it is very recent but I hope Ill realize that he wasnt all the great of a friend to me like I was to him. I was to move in November and now have no direction at all and he wont even talk to me . We met each others families, were spending much of our free time together, etc. You DONT need him for your sanity, you DONT need him to be complete. ive never posted on anything like this before because ive never been in such a heartbroken place. I keep telling him to hang on that something will come up. Im in a very similar situation here and its only the beginning of my grief from the break up so I want to know how it turned out for you all, How to handle a guy with high effing ego, Your email address will not be published. Dont bed him to come back, just tell him that you know your mistakes and that you love him. Because I know men are attracted to confidence my goal right now is to get him back in a few months or so, but also to keep moving forward with my life and not dwell on the negative side of things. Hold your darling's photograph. now please tell me what should I do? When he was breaking up with me, he was crying so hard I know this is just as difficult for him as it is for me. What happens after the second month finishes? I think you'll agree with me when I say: The 60-day no contact rule is, Are you confused because your ex keeps sending you mixed messages? No matter how weird this seems to you this step is the most important one. Trust your life process and know that everything will turn out for the best. November came and I thought he was going to send for us. She lets me see and keep the child whenever I want. Yet 2 weeks after he left me and is with someone else :s this was almost 2 months ago, theyre together but we stupidly have sex like 3/4 times a week (I didnt know he was with this other girl at first and I figured I had nothing to lose as I truly thought I didnt want him back as I was constantly finding out huge lies hes told over the years) But I want him to want me and I want him to fight for me again.. he did not cheat on me, but he work away saying we are not life partners. But I think that by continuing to be friends and talk all the time and hang out, he is getting almost everything from me, so he has no motivation to change the situation. But you should put the fear and worries aside and believe in your heart that the right thing will happen for you, no matter what it is. and his new GF called me up each day and abused me verbally. There was no argument between us that day be both cried and he gave me hug etc. I am giving him space right now.. This came out of no where. We really liked each other. but i dont know why but he seems really happy! Recall happy memories. Since then I have been no contact, but about 6 days in he was trying to contact me all day through texts and calling me, asking how Im doing and begging me to answer. What should I do? We have been mostly long-distance (but driveable) but he is moving to my area in about 2 months. Take this gift. To get a guy to regret leaving you, you must limit the damage already done, amplify the traits he loved about you, and then cut him off from them completely. I think that its not too late. Plus, falling back into a routine can help put your brain on autopilot, and it might help distract you from what just happened with your boyfriend (at least for a little while). He wants to stay in contact since he still loves me, but Im terrified to do that and lose him all over again once hes truly gone. . i just have his sisters on some of my social media. So he met a new friend & after weeks or having questions unanswered, i finally found out from him that he likes the other girl. He is someone that is afraid of being alone. I hear from friends that he says this sucks and that he doesnt want to look for a girl for a while but he just got tired of him wanting to go out and me not. I get quite stressed and i can be quite intense but i dont understand! Its very hard and often impossible to change someone else. Then school ended and he looked right at me, pulled me aside, and said will you please say it? And I knew exactly what he meant and I really didnt want to hear it but I asked it. My best suggestion is to try and move on, date other guys and lose the guilt feelings. I wrote to you a while ago (8/4/15). Focus on yourself for a while. If you are patient, and maintain a good friendship with her (without pressuring her to get back together) theres a good chance that its going to happen. Its been three days since the break up. Before we left he said to me that I have special place for him in his heart and that he doesnt want to lose me in his life and to be friends. meanwhile, my x-bf too sends me friend requests on Facebook and calls me up the other day. He knew where i will be etc. I know exactly what youre going through. He'll also feel kind of foolish. How could be so evil? He is my manager. ), 33 Topics to Talk About with Your Boyfriend (Over Text), 80+ Flirty Truth or Dare Questions Over Text (for Him), How to Make Him Regret Leaving You (& Losing You), 16 Fun & Romantic Couple Games to Play at Home (2022 Update), How to Text a Guy You Just Met (23 Examples! He agreed for dinner the next night he was genuinely excited about it and then he said he had to reschedule okay so we rescheduled he kept standing me up and did for a couple of weeks when I said what was going on he said he couldnt see it working because I didnt give him enough space we agreed to meet up in a few days and talk well his uncle died and we didnt meet up so a few days after that we met up and he said it wasnt because of the space thing he said it was because I let my stress out on him too much well he agreed to come over the next day and he said the stress thing really bothered him and he was scared to get hurt again.. Now let me say I know I am not the nicest person and I do let my stress out on him but not as bad as he makes it seem I had been very moody for about a month but never once have I been mean to him called him names I actually always complimented him at least a few times a day I made a point to because I love him so much I want to support him and make him feel great and be the person I know he can be. I got proposed on January 1, 2013. I know it seems hard, but I believe its the right thing to do. He stopped using physical violence but he treated me with a shitty attitude every day, talked to me like I was very annoying, and not willing to spend time with me. Also Christmas is here and he didnt greet me , Hey brad..kindly give me your email address. Although I did beg and plead with him not to leave me, I did text him later on telling him I was okay with the breakup and I apologized on my behalf. So he left to California in September. He decided that it was a great opportunity to move to California for a better life for us and our two kids. Is there even a possibility to get him to be afraid of losing me or even stop being wishy-washy about staying? Please. Am not sure if he really misses me or he just want to sleep with me and leave me again. You need to understand that the reason he left you in the first place is that he perceived you as low value, not good enough for . However, reunited years later. So, if you determine that you can't forgive him for what he did then you are going to have a hard time having a successful relationship in the future. Hope we can still be friends. Your ex boyfriend stole your heart, then pierced it with something bad he said or did and now he needs to accept it and show you he sincerely is remorseful. HE got upset and it went on for several hours of us talking and crying till he eventually told me to leave and take all my things with me. i agreed and i got back with him A couple weeks later we had had an argument and we didnt talk for a while. Havent heard anything from him now since. Hope we can still be friends. You are going to think Im crazy, (im almost 14) but this guy named Parker and I really liked each other since the beginning of school. 1. My situation is a bit different than most you have probably felt, but let me start at the beginning. I did lose a lot of trust in him and my faith in him in the relationship did start to lack towards the end. Do as you feel, its the right thing. Idk if it was love or what but we really liked each other. First things first, gather your thoughts and give yourself some time to process the situation. I think that in this case I would try the 60-day (or 30) no contact rule. I love him and thats my one fear out of everything was losing him. About a year ago I met this great guy at work. I wish I could help more but I didnt really understand what happenedhe got mad at you because you snooped in his phone without permission? I dont know if I personally could trust him again after acting the way he did. Learn how your comment data is processed. Not a single once that I saw that love was dying. Is there anything I can do? He messages me and ask what do i need and i reply and said it was an accident. Last time we broke up it was a joint agreement, but he was the one to initiate it and he was very kind and respectful with it. these days in a group he is talking about one girl he likes. Im just asking if its possible. After saying I dont know a couple more times, he finally said, No. Then I asked him if he even had feelings for me, and he said, No. When I asked him when they stopped, he said about a month ago after we went to Chicago. I cant handle myself. I think he just took the lazy way out, because it requires hard work, understanding and self confidence to stay in a LDR. Should I avoid his texts or should I reply? Take a step back and breathe. He pausednot looking at me and said no. I want him to become like he was. Its like i met a guy and we became really good friends in a vet short period of time. And I told him he should have just told me instead of ending things because I would have fixed it. I think that your situation is the perfect scenario for the 60 day no contact rule. Seems to me he was interested in sex. Then during English he said that he needed to talk to me after school and I was so nervous and he said before school ended that I just needed to ask do you like me he said that it was about time he said no. Ive been dating my boyfriend for 4 years, living together. Lets get to today's game plan. HE took the keys back to his apartment and helped me carry all my things to my car. I know we love each other.but is it possible to get back him like before? Heres how to do it: https://howtogetaguytowantyou.com/60-day-no-contact-rule/. We decided to spare him the suffering and interrupted the pregnancy at 22 weeks. A hi. You need to become better, and it needs to be apparent to everyone. Good luck! Ive been with this guy for over a year now. I uninstalled all social media from my phone. . But there are certain effective things you can do to make him regret leaving you, miss you, and want you back. I told him I totally understood his time situation. Tie them with the red thread. I was hurt because I had just found out he was also interested in me. I am the only one who sends sweet texts, pictures, relationship stuff emails, pretty much anything.even when I dont send those for a while, I still get nothing back. I just got back together with my boyfriend that I was in a long distance relationship with. I hope this helps and I wish you the best. Just let go of that thought and allow yourself to start from scratch. You have to focus on yourself, without expecting anything from him. But want more than sex? My ex and I broke up almost a month ago, because he stated that love was dying and that he isnt interested anymore. He took that as I didnt trust him and that was the final argument we had, a few sentences later he broke up with me over Facebook. We started to talk less and our video chats went down to 5 mins. If he regrets losing you, he will come and find you, and he will literally be all over you, but if he never does, take it as gospel that he isnt bothered about seeing you again. You need to make him believe that you are completely o.k. He says it was hard seeing me once a week. My ex saw this new girl for about 8 weeks before they broke up. Its been 4 days since this thing happen. i didnt tell him about my past.CZ it was a childish emotion. I think that in a few days, or months, youll be able to think more clearly and youll realize that no revenge will make you feel better, just worse. I think the first thing to understand is that its not something you did. I am just moving out so that will give space but we own two businesses together. Remember, this is not science, and there are no rigid rules, you have to listen to your inner voice (after filtering it out of fears of course) and do what you think is right in every situation. Because I know men are attracted to confidence You have to do all these things for YOURSELF and no one else, definitely not because men like confidence. There are plenty of other dudes to actually love you and not reduce you to a side piece. He was constantly saying how the past is the past and people need to let go he even told me I deserve a second chance and the good times mean more to him than the bad times and Ive let him get by with a lot and given him chances more than most would but I truly love him I have tried and tries to no avail to tell myself to let go and move on but thats when I feel like Im lying to myself. Thats the person, thats who he is and the best he can be at this point. You almost have to act relieved like he is doing you a favor by breaking up with you. Hi, so my ex broke up with me 2 months ago. Make him regret the choice that he made and make him realize that he needs you. my bf and I were in a relationship for 4 years. I said yes because I always liked him . Weve apologized to each other and had some deep conversations but things still seem weird. You need to make him believe that you dont need him (it will drive him insane). But after a couple of days I texted him. For 2 months we kept it friendly. Well he doesnt look. he said if we got back together it would be forced and out of guilt, and he feel like hed be a coward. We both known each other since we were 11 years old. I feel you. Which was difficult, but I love him and would still put up with it. im purely devastated. Ive talked 2him about how i feel and how is actions make me feel and he agrees 2do wot i want him to only problem is he doesnt do it he just keeps doing wot he wants and i mus b the better person and forgive every time and let things slide cause i dont want 2loose him i really love him and i do believe he loves me .
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