However this time things are much more serious I text her a lot and she asked for space and i dont want to lose her but she is now saying she doesnt know if its over or not and thats he needs space to decide. Ive been dating a girl for a little over two months. This is toxic and my question to you is why continue to put yourself through this. I actually have an entire program on this subject, its Called She Needs Space, you can check it out here: https://www.apolloniaponti.co/she-needs-space, If you are interested in 1 on 1 coaching, just head to this link: https://www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching/, We look forward to working with you Ashton! Apollonia. Im excited to chat with you and get you results! We see each other almost everyday after work, grab some food and talk for hours and sometimes have a wonderful sex. I know right now is difficult and thanks for reaching out. Oh she says she needs to lose some weight and I said in your own time when youre comfortable and you want to do it,, I am in good physical shape and she assures me im a handsome man and she is a goddess ,, weve never argued we have a great time together ,, once-in-a-lifetime two people meet ,,what do I do now,, Hi Lenny, Told her if she needed anything Im there for her. During this time of us being out of our elements, she has become not herself Not showing much affection towards me, seeming off in all texts she sends not to me, but also not posting on Instagram (she did daily before this), things of that nature (this lead me to start thinking that something is off with her and I am just adding on to the stress she currently has). Sincerely, We actually hungout about two weeks ago and she was a little bit cold and distant, but we basically did the exact same stuff that we used to do like hold hands, talk a lot, and I gave her Valentines gifts and kissed her. I dont know if its over either. What should I do now ? we both hurt each other and I am willing to work on it but she doesnt know anymore. My lady and I are on a break, I had a tough time with work and finances this year. Thank you so much for taking the time to read my blog When She Says She Needs Space, heres what to do and for sharing in depth your story with me. We hooked up once since, but then broke it off a month ago. Everything was going fine we were not able to talk much which i understood she used to share pictures daily. Heres where you could go to connect with one of our amazing coaches. It's egotistical and manipulative behavior in order to get your partner to apologize, chase you, How does this apply to when she was cheated on by her ex-husband? Should I text her during this time just to tell her Im thinking of her or hope your well, or just leave her alone?? We would see each other over the weekend sometimes difficult bc of exhusband not picking up son. Recently appreciating and enjoying your content so much since stumbling upon it. She said that i have a bad habit of forgetting things which i do, but its not like i dont care about what she has to say however i acknowledge that women can see that as me not caring. My question is why does she call you a bad person? This is a less serious relationship question as Ive only been seeing this girl for almost 3 months. Has been going through menopause for a year now, and I was worried a midlife crisis may come on and this happens. If she was telling you something like I just need a friend right now and shes not ready for a relationship then thats your red flag. They get nervous that she is fading, and so they get the urge to text the girl. Do I keep giving her time and space? I love her like Ive never loved anything and Im 52 years old. She seems to still have tthe same feelings for me llove etc. The reason she wanted to break up is because the things I did in the past. This process of talking went on for about 2 months until I told her That I didnt want to continue and that I was on apps talking to other girls. Thank you for stopping by and commenting on When she says she needs space. So Ive been with my girlfriend for 6 months (mother of 4 but still has lives with her ex husband of 9 years but he knows about me and he is also in his relationship with his girlfriend and the kids know me as well 3 teens and 8 year old, working mother as well both have served in the military as well and so have I, only reason she hasnt gotten her own place is because she doesnt have the credit due his debt became hers as well which they have bad credit now when applying for a home) and 2 of those months I unfortunately went to jail for a DUI, before that everything was great. I suggested giving it more time and see if things changed to see if we can fix it and possibly bring the spark back or to give us no contact space and reconnect in a month or two to let her work on herself and I work on mine. I scolded her alot. I really believe you will highly benefit from a coaching session before you meet with her. For the next 7 days, journal, get your thoughts and feelings out that way. She said it in an good way though ive thanked her telling me and said that I appreciate her telling me and she replied with talking solves everything. We meet in club, we kiss and the next day we though to get some coffee and wine. However, at that time, she broke up with her ex. She says that for the last two weeks there are frequent silence moments between us when were together at her studio and that we dont talk that much anymore like in the beginning. How long should the space be ? She texte me later that night that she is thinking about what she went through in her past relationship and told me that she has a lot fears and anxieties. 3. You have to understand you already are. Told her, she can take her time before deciding to move, even mentioned couple of years, but she want to decide now about her future. I flew to spend time with her and the kids for Christmas and New years this year and she told me loves, she is in love with me but it is not as strong as what is used to be. Youre probably feeling confused and wondering how you can fix this, right? Its been a tough few weeks as Ive pulled myself back from her especially given we work together (albeit remotely at the moment). Best, Wishing you the best, I was divorced from a 16yr marriage, she just came out of 4 yr relationship with her boyfriend in which was hard for her to accept. Should I stop messaging he and honour that ? Starting the next day she went back to her old ways while we were together of texting good morning and throughout the day. Her ex was in rehab because he is a junkie. Now with this whole corona thing Since we have been texting each day but not quite as much as before her needed break. But they also told me to tell her how i felt if she didnt want to talk. Another month goes by and I reached out again and said I hope everything is going well for at work and school. Lately, I have been a mess. i break up with my girlfriend 1 month ago.im 27 yo and she 20 yo. I trying to play it cool without texting her for the time being but hurts. She also has a tons of friends, so she probably feels that she can get by with them, as she always has, since she has not felt that she has had a boyfriend for quite some time. During the next couple weeks I was working on better myself and overall attitude. In the last few months I have had some struggles with my health and other personal things that has created some depression. she says she just wants to find herself and be with the kids. The first article What It Means When Your Partner Says I Need Space! said to show up. I was very upset and I expressed my anger and disappointment to my fianc at the time. When I ask the serious questions she said its a bit much so how do I handle this situation? I would really back up. Hope this helps and wishing you the best! Focus on your life and continuing to fulfill yourself and make yourself happy. We met up for a casual drink and found out how much we had in common and how like minded we are. Something happened that made her disconnected from you. However out of the blue and expected my gf as said she wants a break without really knowing herself why! But, than she said that she didnt know what she wants also shes told me a couple of times about how she doesnt deserve me that no man has treated her like I do. Hi Apollonia, Hey i need some help i met this amazing woman she was with a man that used her she did all the work in the relationship she ttook care of all the kids cleaned house paid the bills and he didnt help at all also he never showed her any emotion we met and just fell madly in love she asked me to adopt her daughter to have a child with her all after a month and a half im a very emotional person and i asked her to marry me she said yes moved and things were perfect the day i finished moving her things out of their house she said that she thinks she still has feelings for her x i overreacted and say how could you want everything with me then change your mind a week later she says its best if she moves out she is pregnant with my child moved to her moms and says that she loves me but wont show me affection and doesnt want me to touch her anymore she says that she feels like she has lost herself i want to help she says this is something she has to do on her own and she doesnt know if we will end up together but we will cross that bridge when we get there i got super clingy depressed and am not ok ive maid it clear that i dont want to live without her and that i would do anything for her also i have 2 kids and she has 3 kids i fell in love with these kids also all i want is to give them someone that wont leave them like everyone always does only texts me like once every 3 pr 4 texts and sometimes not at all just ignores me what do i need to do to make things better i want us to to be a happy family again i want to be there for my child when he or she is born and i want things to go back to when she said i was the only man for her i feel so lost without her what do i do please help. She responded saying thanks and asking what Im checking in on, in turn I blew it off answering the next day saying nothing in particular, just letting you know I agree with you and encourage thanking a step back. I have been in a relationship for 8 months I had ups and downs as other relationships I love my girlfriend but its been 1 week she told me she needs space because she is confused in this time and she told me she has feelings for her ex even though she loves me I asked her if she has communication with her ex and she said they go to the same church and she see him ofen she also told me she asked him if he wants to get back together when I just started the relationship with her but he told her he doesnt want and I told her to go to the church together and she said no Im scared she will leave me if I dont text her every day should I continue texting her and telling her I love her because Im afraid if I dont text her she will think I dont love her and she might have more feelings about her ex. And you have to remind yourself of that its just going to take time, but you know it will happen so just go slow. But also, you will be forming a foundation where this woman will not want to do this again as you were honoring space for her. I really dont know what I did wrong to her I thought we were friends. She never said she wanted to truly end it, she talked about how she was thinking about giving it more time and see if things work out but thinks it would be unfair to me since she knows I will know she is unhappy and will make me become unhappy. Apollonia, Hi Apollonia, She then turned up to my home and broke up with me. Should I be doing anything for myself towards my relationship with her? However, Ive been giving her space. If this rings a bell, ask yourself these questions: Do you want to spend every waking minute with her? As i continue to learn about myself through counseling, ive realized how much of a drain on the relationship ive been. Thats unfortunate that there is another man. Let her reach out to you but in the meantime work on yourself and learn how to love yourself and not take other peoples inability to show up personally. Best, I would encourage you to book a coaching session here so we can help. I recently broke up with my girlfriend in April. That was just after Valentines Day. I know this can be hard but a woman that loves you does not want to lose you break or no break. I feel as if shes confused as to what she wants but I do not know if giver her space will solve that as she has never said she needed it. I said to her I will wait till she becomes ready again. later on i kept trying to contact her but last week she blocked me on all socialmedias is this like she thought i keep disturbing her or she wanted to moveon? If I should text, what should text her? She kept fighting for me to realise what Im doing and how Im behaving but I stayed firm. 24hrs later she called me to tell me she is confused and does not know what she wants right now and she needs her space to figure things out. Am afraid that not communicating with her, she will move on. So I ask you to ask yourself what are you doing that is making her feel like this? Great insight and a lot to take away and apply in my relationship. When we began dating I noted she had some insecurities and personal issues such as low self-esteem. My insecurities had gotten the better of meand the alcohol. We have been dating for a couple months now and although we do argue I thought everything was okay. We broke up for several reasons, but mainly because I didnt pay as much attention to her as i should have. And we instantly had amazing chemistry and a connection that I cant really explain in words Take the space!!! By doing this, you are giving your partner space but also showing up and being available in new ways that show advancement in their life and your life by owning and I recognize that in the first few weeks I was way to over excited and was putting to much pressure on things. What do you think I should do? Is this a good sign? Is She Playing Me? While the other (this article) instructed me give her that space. Her birthday is also soon and I am wondering should I get a very small present or just let it be? When she started taking her classes things changed dramitcally. She also mentioned She also said that. I admit I have been down in my spirits a lot and become negative and it has affected her. Hey Matt, thank you for taking the time to read when she says she needs space, heres what to do. The reason she needs space is she is tired and doesnt want to communicate with people via meseenger apps and play social media. Im expecting the worst to come since she has never messaged me other than condolence since my grandfather died. Hey Apollonia, We had a few romantic date before the lady I was living with (business partner & landlady 20 years older) started causing issues. I dont see why she would block you from WhatsApp unless she saw you flirting with other girls? We then linked back up twice and after her realizing how much she forgot how I treated her (queen). Pls what can I do and what will be the outcome. Best, She then tells me that she doesnt think theres any hope for us and says it has nothing to do with the other guy. A lot of people fail because they focus on no contact and not change. She said no and that if she did she would be honest. We would even have mini movie nights with our dog and eat popcorn. Apollonia. And Shall i keep on ignoring her and keep zero contact to allow her to restore her mental health and appreciate me again? the answer has always back I was looking for greener grass. she told me she wanna leave me please I beg you leave me alone. Invest your time into things that keep you busy and let her have her space right now so she can figure out what it is she wants. The reason for why she needs some time i asked her she said i m adjusting and compromising the things bcz of her in my life which she says you dont need to compromise or adjust. We had fights, and the fights got messier and harder everytime. I am not going to lie I have not handled it 100% great. Changes are not always a bad thing. As I read your article. Thank you for reading When she says she needs space, heres what to do! and sharing a bit of your story! ive been sitting back and taking it easy and letting her come to me, and she does. She told she loved me and to just give her time that she does want to be with me but I dont know how to feel about all this. Hi my name is manjunath i m from INDIA. No full on convo. Best of luck with everything. Thanks in advance :/, Hey AD, thank you for taking the time to read When She Says She Needs Space. I dont know what I want right now. Overall, the biggest thing is if she wants space, give her that space. It seems as though you may be too needy and attached and this is why she asked for space. I do love this woman, but i am scared ive pushed her to her breaking point. We used to discuss so many things together like what we will do in future, about marriage and getting settled. and she replied thank you and to take care of yourself always. A woman says she wants space or doesnt want you on her life, Yet still texts or comments on things posted through social media or views daily the many things Im doing and will be first to view straight as posted as though she has selected notification pop up on her phone for me, Why is that? She said she needs 2 weeks space to get her head straight about things, the relationship, how much we both want it. Tried reaching out to her, hung out once, went for a function together, plead with her, called, texted but she still insists I respect her wish and give her a break. Shes acting this way because I think she might have either mental health problems or shes a love addict. I did promise her one day she would be my wife and as time went on I was failing to recognize her signs of our relationship failing. she stated she hoped I wasnt. She has 4 kids they are all step kids but Ive spent 10 yrs of my life with them. She asked for space and Ive given it to her for more than a week. And that if we linked up in the future and did something together, that its fine. While we were talking she told me about sexual abuse that happened to her this year that she hasnt told anyone about, and she went to the police after I urged her to get justice. We were about to take our first trip within the following weeks and a month prior talked about engagement and moving in, key information is that she still has her v-card, we are in our mid-late 20s, so we never had sex. Moral of the story is she originally said shes overwhelmed and didnt feel right sharing whatever it is with me and thats just how she felt later on followed by she not ready to be in a relationship even tho she let me know countless times how shes falling for me and now she quit her job where She worked for three years. Im not convinced its going anywhere though which is tough because I care about her a lot. Apollonia. Hello TJ, I would like her to know, but I also respect her wanting the time. She suffers from anxiety and I havent helped with being snappy, clingy and needy recently due to some developments that turned me into a momentary wuss.
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